Comments on: come away, human child

By: Daisy

Daisy — Tue, 03 Jul 2007 18:59:03 +0000

A wise mentor once told me that she never knew what to say at funerals until her husband died. Then she knew: there was nothing you could say. You can only be there. But being there is the most important thing you can do. You may only be here virtually, but you are doing what matters most: being there.

By: Heather

Heather — Mon, 02 Jul 2007 23:41:45 +0000

So unbelievably beautiful.

By: fidget

fidget — Mon, 02 Jul 2007 13:40:40 +0000

That was a beautiful post. My heart aches for your losses.
It is so important to remember

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By: NotSoSage

NotSoSage — Thu, 21 Jun 2007 03:57:45 +0000

Bon, you’re amazing. This was such an incredible gift for you to give Kate and those of us who can’t find the words when someone loses a child. I think you’re right – it’s our greatest collective fear and so we shy away from it – but hopefully more of us will be a little braver the next time we are (god forbid) confronted with that situation.

Thank you. Your story, your story of you and Dave and Finn and O, have moved me and I will always remember that.

By: lo

lo — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 22:41:34 +0000

Today, at Kates’ blog – there are 500, count’em 500!! entries under “Tribute”- from all around the world, most likely – I want to believe that this energy is being harnessed – how powerful to witness this on the internet – and yet… we are still all faceless strangers (well, some of you might know each other in person) – so to that effect, it is foreign to me – but this written word develops a community who are able to convey their sharing and caring – so, a good thing- a great thing.

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 03:12:42 +0000

You are so right, this is so true.

By: lo

lo — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 16:11:51 +0000

I read Kates’ entry entitled tribute because of your connection. Your words and her words and the whole story – tears flowing, and appreciated the poetic souls that are able to somehow put a little of these immense, profound feelings into some words – though words are never enough, they do the job to communicate and I will never forget your boy or Liam – so that is a big something. The blogging world is amazing for that. My dusty journals are just that – dusty , for me- though – therapeutic and helpful at the time, I just don’t make the time now to”journal” – I never told anyone except my husband, Mother-in-law and sister and “doctors” about my miscarriage 6 years ago – I now have healthy, vibrant children, for whom I am eternally grateful, but I wonder if a part of me just shut down and shut up about my miscarriage for some unknown reason. This blog helps me to sort through this – and why I didn’t share more. I was awed at the number of responses to Kates’ tribute. I scrolled down and down and down and kept reading, and thinking – wow, where are all these wonderful women? – and wow, I’m glad they are here.

By: MamaMichelsBabies

MamaMichelsBabies — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 05:16:43 +0000

Through you I found Kate, just yesterday, I went back and read, then reread, my heart aching for her and her little boys, the three of them. I kept re reading those posts from their birth on, selfishly or selflessly I don’t know which, hoping for a different ending, more upset everytime when it wasn’t, wanting to comfort that Mama, whom I’ve never met in the fiercest way. It’s not just Liam that won’t be forgotten, it’s the entirety of them, Liam, Evan, Ben, Justin, Kate, one no less then the other. All of them remembered.

Beautiful Bon. And thank you.

By: LawyerMama

LawyerMama — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 00:52:19 +0000

I’m late in commenting. When I read the first lines of your post this weekend, I knew I needed to come back and read this when I could give you my full attention.

I read about Liam for the first time maybe a week before he died. I had to read every word about the twins. When I saw that Liam had died, well, it’s horrible but in the midst of overwhelming sadness, I was so relieved not to be Kate. But I also can’t get her or Liam or Ben off of my mind. I wonder how she’ll feel on Ben’s first birthday. I wonder how Ben will feel on his 18th. Ah, that poor family. It’s a sadness I can’t even comprehend.

I have to admit that I’ve looked through your archives looking for crumbs about Finn too. I’ve seen your comments and wondered how Liam’s story was affecting you. So thank you for sharing. And I promise that I won’t forget.