Sun 22 Jul 2007
how i spent my summer vacation
Posted by bon under coping stuff
[29] Comments
i don’t want to start any blasphemous rumours
but i think that god’s got a sick sense of humour…
(because every summer holiday needs a Depeche Mode soundtrack. so sunny.)
so, we departed Wednesday afternoon for Dave’s family reunion. Oscar’s pinkeye was clearing, and i’d gone into work to get caught up on what i’d missed the day before, and all was well and the car was loaded and we were looking forward to four days of catching up with Dave’s mom’s umpteen brothers and one sister and all their offspring and their offsprings’ offspring, and eating a lot and drinking some wine and Oscar playing with cousins by the beach. it was going to be a pastoral good time in the bosom of family, freed from our series of poxplagues and with grandparents around to help corral the little bundle of toddling delight that is our boy.
ha. chortle. snicker.
our boy woke up at an ungodly hour Thursday morning with his nose running like a faucet. sneezing ensued. then coughing. eventually, full-blown bronchiolitis and gasping for breath.
to make a long, tragic tale concise…holiday was spent sans internet, chasing snotty sick child to keep him from infecting cousins, walking with him through sleepless nights of misery like we haven’t experienced in a year, prattling on to people i’ve only met once before about Oscar’s illness like some sort of helicopter-parent hypochondriac, and hiding in family basement once i too caught the cold and began to feel as if my throat was full of glass shards.
we did see the sights, though. the local hospital, to be precise. ever try to keep a fifteen-month old in one small room (with a weird, archaic, prison-like crib) for twenty-four hours? when nurses only seem to come in while he’s sleeping and otherwise expect you to entertain and supervise child in room full of dangerous metal corners and fascinating medical objects? good times.
for Oscar’s photo album, a shot of him behind bars with his cell mate.

and him and Daddy snuggling on the parent bed, supplied so that you can put your wee darling ‘back to sleep’ repeatedly after they come in every two hours to drag him from his crib and fondle him with cold stethoscopes.

but…he’s better. breathing normally, back to just having a cold, poor kidlet. this was his fourth bout with bronchiolitis, which doesn’t bode well for the overall state of his lungs, given that almost any cold seems to settle there and rob him of oxygen in a matter of hours. his blood SATs were down to 88% by the time they got him measured, even though this didn’t seem nearly as dramatic an attack as the one that got him hospitalized in December, nor the one that took us to the emergency room in Prague. scary. not life and death, scary, no, so long as Dave & i continue to risk being thought neurotics who trot the boy to emerge whenever we see him pant – and i can live with that, particularly given that we’re batting 1000 on home diagnosis – but still scary to the mother in me who wants him to be some imaginary version of whole and not weighed down by a limitation like asthma, which looms on the horizon like a label just waiting for a home.
and to the petulant sot in me who just wants to lounge a vacation away without illness, eating bonbons and indulging in wine and company, too.
yeh, i know. let the snickerfest begin.
(and tune in next week when hopefully this blog will no longer read like a reject script from ‘General Hospital’ and we’ll all be hale and hearty and you’ll hear Nurse Bonnie say…well…something new).




July 22nd, 2007 at 11:27 pm
I think all babies get sick on vacation. Fortunately, we have never had to take Porgie to the emergency room. I can’t imagine how scared you must have been. I hope everyone is feeling better soon.
July 22nd, 2007 at 11:56 pm
Oh, Bon. So sorry.
Why do they always get sick while we’re on vacation?
Some of the worst illnesses B. and J. have ever had occurred when we were away from home.
O. may have a few rough years ahead, but take heart — Ben outgrew the asthma that dogged him for years. We’ve not had to use a nebulizer for almost three years now.
O. may follow Ben’s pattern. One can hope.
July 23rd, 2007 at 12:06 am
honey, this can’t even be called a vacation. so of COURSE you need a vacation, in fact you are overdue.
July 23rd, 2007 at 12:32 am
You need a vacation from your vacation. Of course the last vacation we went on I got a massive stomach flu. Then the one before that I miscarried and had a D&C at the local hospital. Then the one before that I sprained my ankle terribly . . .
We should travel together.
I hope you are all safe and healthy at home, snuggled in your own beds.
July 23rd, 2007 at 12:52 am
oh I am so sorry, that poor little muffin
July 23rd, 2007 at 1:27 am
you and my husband could commiserate-he lost most of his vacation to my illness. Sucks dude.
July 23rd, 2007 at 1:29 am
dude, that SO sucks!
hospital waiting rooms are nightmares.
glad your back.
July 23rd, 2007 at 1:43 am
So sorry you had to go through this! Hope you all get better (and stay better) soon!
July 23rd, 2007 at 1:55 am
Still, I am impressed that you had the jailbird-striped suit at the ready.
Hope he’s much better, and this never, ever happens again!
July 23rd, 2007 at 2:12 am
We took our kids to visit my family. Thirteen grandkids under the age of eight, all in one house. That was two weeks ago, and we are all just now able to keep down a meal.
Vacations suck.
I hope your boy gets all better soon.
July 23rd, 2007 at 2:16 am
Dear lord, woman, you have paid your dues ten times over.
July 23rd, 2007 at 6:47 am
ack… no fun, but glad Oscar is better. Adorable picture of him with his Daddy.
And yes, I do think that God has a sick sense of humor. SICK… ha ha I get it.
July 23rd, 2007 at 7:02 am
I can’t believe that you guys got hit again. Sending you lots of good health vibes!
July 23rd, 2007 at 11:24 am
Ouch. Have you guys done something to offend the good health fairy?
July 23rd, 2007 at 12:34 pm
Oh goodness. This sounds like a vacation in the life of my sister. I’m sorry and I hope Oscar feels better soon.
July 23rd, 2007 at 2:14 pm
Erg. Best laid plans…
Glad he is well.
xo,
J
July 23rd, 2007 at 3:01 pm
That is some welcoming crib! Hospitals are no fun.
July 23rd, 2007 at 3:47 pm
Sick little ones + hospital visits = no fun for anyone. Glad to hear O is on the mend. Hope you are better too. Summer colds just plain suck!
July 23rd, 2007 at 5:48 pm
Niobe…please send the good health fairy’s address and i’ll start forwarding bribes. clearly, i’ve been neglectful.
Slouching Mom…i didn’t know asthma could be outgrown! that’s heartening, if we do end up landing on that diagnosis – not as if it’s really a terrible burden for him to bear, but i do have hopes that O will get the chance to be somewhat more athletic than his two-left-feet mother. how did Ben’s early asthma impact him?
Veronica…thirteen kids in one house, huh? yikes.
July 23rd, 2007 at 6:11 pm
I’m so sorry about the sickness! Blech…poor all of you. I’ll never forget the time Liam, at 13 months, got horribly ill in Athens and we spent hours in a ridiculously crowded ER–me with vomit all over my shirtfront.
July 23rd, 2007 at 6:14 pm
You should talk to my parents. I earned the honour of always ruining family vacations by getting sick when I was young. And the last time? Two years ago? When we tried to take a family vacation for the first time in, oh, 15 years? Yup…threw up on the bus home from Universal Studios (but then, who wouldn’t throw up on the way home from Universal Studios?).
Glad to hear O’s on the mend. Any chance your boss (snicker) will call them child-care days and give you a real vacation?
July 23rd, 2007 at 6:20 pm
ugh, how awful, we had a weird run on croup for a while with our first where it was every cold like clock-work and he’ go right for the scary stridor breathing, which means his airway was closing -eventually our doctor let us keep steroids for him at our house to save time and money. We’d open all the windows for moisture and “sleep” in our freezing cold bedroom while he buzzed around on baby steroid climbing all over us. Ah, general hospital, the toddler years. hope the cold disappears soon!
July 23rd, 2007 at 7:57 pm
This certainly didn’t qualify as a vacation! Poor Oscar! Poor you!
“All my children”, sick. These are the “Days of our lives.” Sorry, couldn’t pass up a good soap opera reference!
July 23rd, 2007 at 9:47 pm
Poor O, poor Bon.
Many nights I have stared at my kiddie through the cold metal bars of his hospital cell, wishing for a different outcome, a bottle of wine and a handsome doctor to play with.
Sadly I got none of my wishes.
But fingers and toes crossed that this is O’s last time behind those bars.
Smooches.
July 23rd, 2007 at 10:33 pm
Oh Bon, poor you. My ten year old had bronchiolitis only once and it was awful. Do you have a home nebulizer??? We had one for years and it kept the worst of the worst at bay. Finally, my daughter had weezing of the worst sort for several years but never ended up with asthma. Ask your pediatrician about singulair–it’s a great preventative medication, especially at O’s age.
Hang in there!
July 23rd, 2007 at 10:49 pm
Those were very appropriate pajamas Oscar was wearing! Sorry your vacation wasn’t the sunshine, bunnies, and wine you were hoping for. Glad to hear O is over the worst though.
July 24th, 2007 at 12:31 am
Poor little munchkin!
My kids have been through big sickness cycles too – they’d get one thing and then when they were recovering BAM, they’d get something else. I always decide that’s time to take it easy and Lsyol the house, but we’re still not exactly a healthy people.
July 30th, 2007 at 12:30 am
I’d like to wish Oscar a firm “happy birthday” for the lovely head cold both my husband and I are still enjoying.
Glad the tank is still rolling.
August 8th, 2007 at 3:14 am
Oh Bon, it sucks arse doesn’t it? We had Aoife in hospital with a rashy virusy thing for a week, then a few days later they both came down with the worlds worst cold – at least I think it’s a cold, but Aoife’s breathing is crap and she has a rash and we’ve been to emergancy twice in the last couple of days and today the only crummy doc who could see us prescribed antibiotics – which is what he’s done every time I’ve seen him, hence the adjective crummy. So now that I’ve used your blog to winge I might try to write something a bit more upbeat on my own! Sorry for O’s ill health, and your resultant irritation / fed-upness / general crappy time!