Comments on: songs of labour and other things i’m not supposed to say http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/ i will NOT scribble on the children Fri, 12 Mar 2010 02:16:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: iamthediva http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-111633 iamthediva Tue, 29 Apr 2008 16:13:50 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/#comment-111633 i just have to say something, although i don't know what...maybe just that I read it. I'm 23 weeks pregnant, and your post moved me to tears. i just have to say something, although i don’t know what…maybe just that I read it.
I’m 23 weeks pregnant, and your post moved me to tears.

]]> By: Antigone http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-110374 Antigone Fri, 25 Apr 2008 06:16:23 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/#comment-110374 Most women would be petrified. You've already had your share of pain. Most women would be petrified. You’ve already had your share of pain.

]]> By: Nico http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-110221 Nico Thu, 24 Apr 2008 23:43:40 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/#comment-110221 Thank you so much for sharing these intimate parts of yourself with us Bon. I'm sorry that the clusterfuck and your panic made Oscar's birth less than what you were hoping for. I was telling a friend the other day how I hoped that I wouldn't have to have a C with this baby, and she responded, "it's not the end of the world". No, it's not, but it does matter. It is something that I will always have some regrets about, despite that everything turned out okay. I hope that your next birth experience leaves you with no regrets or sadness. It sounds like you're doing everything you can now to make that true. Thank you so much for sharing these intimate parts of yourself with us Bon.

I’m sorry that the clusterfuck and your panic made Oscar’s birth less than what you were hoping for.

I was telling a friend the other day how I hoped that I wouldn’t have to have a C with this baby, and she responded, “it’s not the end of the world”. No, it’s not, but it does matter. It is something that I will always have some regrets about, despite that everything turned out okay.

I hope that your next birth experience leaves you with no regrets or sadness. It sounds like you’re doing everything you can now to make that true.

]]> By: Emily http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-110047 Emily Thu, 24 Apr 2008 15:54:40 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/#comment-110047 I don't have words, Bon. I just want to honor the beauty of the words you've put down here. I'll do it with my silence. I don’t have words, Bon.

I just want to honor the beauty of the words you’ve put down here.

I’ll do it with my silence.

]]> By: krista http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-109902 krista Thu, 24 Apr 2008 08:09:42 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/#comment-109902 *exhales* thank you. everytime i kiss my three month old daughter, my chest hurts from the sheer beauty. i love her fierce, bold, full. but i hated being pregnant. giving birth (along with the emergency c-section i could feel) was the single most traumatic experience i've ever been through. after the surgery, i felt no elation, no profound joy, not even anything as exciting as depression. i was dejected, disappointed, embarrassed. and my man was there as much as possible but i couldn't, in my wildest dreams, expect him to understand. thank you for sharing a story that makes me cry with recognition, empathy, relief. and my daughter's name is finn. *exhales* thank you.
everytime i kiss my three month old daughter, my chest hurts from the sheer beauty. i love her fierce, bold, full.
but i hated being pregnant. giving birth (along with the emergency c-section i could feel) was the single most traumatic experience i’ve ever been through. after the surgery, i felt no elation, no profound joy, not even anything as exciting as depression. i was dejected, disappointed, embarrassed. and my man was there as much as possible but i couldn’t, in my wildest dreams, expect him to understand.
thank you for sharing a story that makes me cry with recognition, empathy, relief.
and my daughter’s name is finn.

]]> By: JoC http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-109627 JoC Wed, 23 Apr 2008 07:09:25 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/#comment-109627 Requesting charmed 3rd time here and close-to-term as possible from the universe. I am glad you are looking into the Doula idea. Even if they just keep looking you in the eyes and saying "this is different". My husband was completely flipped out. Sure we were both dying, hating to see me in pain and fear. And I had a full midwife, new midwife, a nurse and a student nurse in a major hospital. Next time I am getting a doula. Requesting charmed 3rd time here and close-to-term as possible from the universe. I am glad you are looking into the Doula idea. Even if they just keep looking you in the eyes and saying “this is different”. My husband was completely flipped out. Sure we were both dying, hating to see me in pain and fear. And I had a full midwife, new midwife, a nurse and a student nurse in a major hospital. Next time I am getting a doula.

]]> By: lisa b http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-109508 lisa b Wed, 23 Apr 2008 01:00:06 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/#comment-109508 I do hope third time is the charm for you. I do hope third time is the charm for you.

]]> By: lo http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-109494 lo Tue, 22 Apr 2008 23:56:28 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/#comment-109494 The doula is a great idea because she is there to hold your hand, look you in the eye, calm your fears,, help you to stay positive, even help you laugh. As hard as birthing is, remember that it can be a good experience, and that it is , for many, and if , in the meantime, a professional therapist might be good to consult with, to see if now is a good time for some therapy, while you wait.... the power of the mind... keep hold of that. You can do this, as many women have done before - you are strong and loved. The doula is a great idea because she is there to hold your hand, look you in the eye, calm your fears,, help you to stay positive, even help you laugh.
As hard as birthing is, remember that it can be a good experience, and that it is , for many, and if , in the meantime, a professional therapist might be good to consult with, to see if now is a good time for some therapy, while you wait…. the power of the mind… keep hold of that. You can do this, as many women have done before – you are strong and loved.

]]> By: De http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-109485 De Tue, 22 Apr 2008 22:34:04 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/#comment-109485 It's good that you have a place to let this out. Even though you met with that one doula, I think it might be worthwhile to find out if there is any other kind of therapy or treatment you can get as you prepare. Maybe...? I'll keep you in my prayers, meager as they are. It’s good that you have a place to let this out. Even though you met with that one doula, I think it might be worthwhile to find out if there is any other kind of therapy or treatment you can get as you prepare. Maybe…?

I’ll keep you in my prayers, meager as they are.

]]> By: Amelie http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-109430 Amelie Tue, 22 Apr 2008 18:14:56 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/2008/04/20/songs-of-labour-and-other-things-im-not-supposed-to-say/#comment-109430 Your writing is amazing, Bon. So many, so different emotions in one post. I hope very much that the third birth is months and months away, and that it will be, and bring, what you hope for. Your writing is amazing, Bon. So many, so different emotions in one post.
I hope very much that the third birth is months and months away, and that it will be, and bring, what you hope for.

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