Sun 1 Jun 2008
nothing but flowers
Posted by bon under mama-baby stuff, smitten stuff
[32] Comments
he picks them with a zeal bordering on obsession, with a “wow-oo” of admiration for those most ripe, most worthy. those that come free of the ground with long stems he deems “biii-iiig”…those whose heads he pulls off, still unsure of the physics of this whole plucking art, are “babies.” he gives me the babies, sweetly, reserving the more impressive long ones for his own esoteric collections, scattered through the backyard like random floral shrines, Victorian and faintly eerie. and then he is off again, careening full-tilt on short, sturdy legs across our expanse of yellow-dotted lawn, hunting.
he has been so thorough we are beginning to run out of dandeliion cover. he’s better than a goat. we could rent him out to landscaping companies.
tonight the light was golden before bedtime and we found our first ghost dandelion of the season, wispy and white. i taught him how to blow. he inhaled most of it, but we laughed and tickled our noses with the remnants and dropped the stem into the mulch. he looked back then, picked up the stem with its clinging half-cloud still intact, and picked another yellow bloom and introduced the two, touching their heads together, intoning words i do not understand.
and soon they will be gone, all these yellow weeds my son finds so beautiful, so magical…blowin’ in the wind, seed for another year.
and i look at him and his solid little body suddenly seems so fragile, ephemeral…this childhood so impossibly short.





June 1st, 2008 at 9:33 pm
. . . so lucky . . . and so cute.
June 1st, 2008 at 9:51 pm
Is he wearing a sweater??? In June? I need to move to Canada! It is already HOT in Jersey.
I would definitely hire him to remove dandelions from my yard!
June 1st, 2008 at 10:39 pm
Yes. Sweaters. In. June. We are not happy about it. Will this freakin’ spring never end?
We blew our fair share today. I’ve been feeling peevish so I knocked a few extra heads onto the pristine lawn of my pesticide-addicted neighbour.
June 1st, 2008 at 11:18 pm
Oh, my heart.
I am reminded of a lovely poem I once read on the bus (we have special “Poetry Buses” in Seattle that are papered with local poetry on the walls). I’m sorry that I don’t know the author:
I keep a dandelion
in full fluff
Waiting for the perfect wish
June 1st, 2008 at 11:26 pm
Sweet picture.
You know we had a longer than normal cool period this spring and actually got another patch of the yellow heads. So Oscar may get another go around this summer.
June 2nd, 2008 at 12:06 am
Hold on to it. It doesn’t last.
June 2nd, 2008 at 12:38 am
So beautiful. I remember that stage well. They’re kind of in their own world still then, full of the beginnings of true imagination. But it’s also quite lovely when they really start to see you as a person, when the dandelions become bouquets for mama, questions about why they grow in the grass, or earnest soliloquies about the beautiful, humble, and under appreciated dandelion. My sons glance askance at neighbors who insist upon week control, defending their love for the yellow flower with the name that speaks of lions’ teeth. My pockets are ever tiny compost piles, full of the offerings of besotted preschool twin boys. You’re right that childhood is short, but the changes and the evolution are a sustained joy on the good days.
June 2nd, 2008 at 3:11 am
I needed to read this. I just keep begging my girl Friday to stop picking everyone’s fleurs. But it is, as you say.
June 2nd, 2008 at 9:01 am
I feel this every day lately, as the girls grown longer and stronger….
June 2nd, 2008 at 9:41 am
Ever since I taught the girls that dandelions are edible, our yard has been kept well-plucked.
June 2nd, 2008 at 10:25 am
Beautiful.
June 2nd, 2008 at 10:43 am
Ah dandelion picking. what sweet pure joy he shows. cherish every moment bon.
June 2nd, 2008 at 11:23 am
Isaac’s big into our mighty dandelion crop, too. He hasn’t figured out stems, though. I have a series of glass finger bowls throughout the house with dandelion heads floating on water.
I love that there is a pesticide ban in Halifax. The dandelion crop this spring has been truly incredible.
June 2nd, 2008 at 12:16 pm
We are in the dandilion admiration club too. My soon calls the ghosts “blow flowers” and gets very very excited when he spots one. Traditional yellows are on display in our house too. I got mad when he pulled someones tulip then realized I had not explained dandilions…
June 2nd, 2008 at 12:56 pm
What a beautiful boy you have. And wonderful mother eyes to see him through, and best of all, words to share him with.
June 2nd, 2008 at 1:29 pm
that picture is so so beautiful.
it goes impossibly quickly.
June 2nd, 2008 at 1:54 pm
My kids think our dandelions are beautful too. Come to think of it, so do I. It’s like nature’s neon sign announcing, “You may play here; it is safe.”
Beautiful picture of your little one.
June 2nd, 2008 at 6:15 pm
Too fast, too fast.
But beautiful while it lasts.
June 2nd, 2008 at 8:53 pm
Just today Bella asked me to make her and her dining companion a “dandelion pie” for her imaginary dinner out in the playset. I informed her dandelions made a much better salad. It’ll last a bit longer, the romance of weeds.
June 2nd, 2008 at 9:20 pm
Amen. There’s no way to slow it down, is there?
June 2nd, 2008 at 10:09 pm
At our house, those pretty yellow blooms are called “wish flowers.” And, to the consternation of OUR pesticide-obsessed neighbors on both sides, we embrace them as flowers, NOT weeds!
In fact, we have so many in our yard that our two lovlies, who were once offered a penny for every flower that they picked, had to give up after only $5 worth.
It makes me laugh out loud to hear our 6 year old declare, “Look mommy, we have the prettiest yard in the neighborhood! I feel sorry for all these other people who don’t have pretty yellow flowers in their yards.”
It’s all in your perspective. (-:
June 3rd, 2008 at 12:38 am
And, yet, we call them weeds. I think the kids know best.
June 3rd, 2008 at 1:38 am
In your honor, I will leave my yard unweeded.
June 3rd, 2008 at 4:20 am
Cutest landscaping company ever.
June 3rd, 2008 at 8:31 am
I commented in the wrong place for this one, being used to something different. I was wondering why everyone else’s comment seemed so out of context…not quite awake yet, I think…
June 3rd, 2008 at 10:53 am
I’ve wanted to post about something like this, but, given my self-imposed content restrictions, I don’t think I can. Wistfulness at the ephemerality (ephemeralness?) of childhood seems to be one of the leitmotifs of bloggers everywhere. But it’s also just another one of those emotions that I just don’t get.
It’s a good thing that I have a couple of pieces of paper hanging on my wall that lend credence to the idea that I’m reasonably bright. ‘Cause otherwise, much of the time, I’d probably feel kinda dim.
June 3rd, 2008 at 11:05 am
for me, the wistfulness is in the fear that the child is fragile like the flowers, only here for a season, then…puff…
and the less neurotic recognition that even if he is healthy as a horse and lives to be 100, there is truth in that anyway. the now will always disappear. often i’m grateful for that. sometimes…i would like to stay still, happy enough with what i have.
June 3rd, 2008 at 11:28 am
That sweet little head!
My kids pick me HUGE bouquets of dandelions, so my kitchen is full of juice glass vases right now.
June 4th, 2008 at 1:39 pm
mine does the same – picks ours, picks the neighbors, picks them from the side of the road when we go for a walk.
and she picks “real” flowers with abandon too – entire swaths of stuff.
btw – i saw your comment at mayberry’s about goutweed…we too bought a house overrun with it – i pull it out muttering “stinking bishop” because its other name is bishop’s weed. and i have just learned that it is edible, though i’ve not had the guts to try it.
June 4th, 2008 at 10:04 pm
I love this; I love how you articulate that ephemeral moment.
June 4th, 2008 at 11:39 pm
It seems so long. The little time.
enjoy it if you can. I ache for it.
June 5th, 2008 at 12:23 am
Beautiful. I loved reading this.