Wed 2 Jul 2008
…and the tree loved the boy
Posted by bon under stuff stuff
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ever since it dawned on us the other night how dire the situation with the runt tree is, Dave’s taken to watering it in the evenings. birches are thirsty creatures. we know that our weeding/nitrate-enriching measures – however highly recommended by Tree Doctor Google – likely won’t save it, but trying feels better than sitting back and watching it wither.
on Saturday, before bedtime, Oscar “helped” Dave tote the big bucket from the tap on the side of the house back to the shady corner where the trees stand. i watched them, Dave adjusting his pace to that of O’s stubby, eager little legs, the big hand and the small balancing the handle between them.
it was Canada Day yesterday…and it was hot. stinkin’ hot. after a jaunt to the petting zoo with Daddy and Nannie, Oscar spent the late afternoon lounging in his backyard blow-up pool. because his is a glamourous life.
i was parked in a lawnchair beside said pool, cooling my feet in the three-inch depths of grassy, chilly water, being busily splashed by my son. Dave was drinking a beer. the big bucket with which the pool had been filled lay upturned beside it on the lawn.
when Oscar picked up the bucket and dipped it into the pool, i looked at him. quizzically. i didn’t realize he had fully mastered the zen art of water transference, so when he hoisted the bucket and trotted off with it and its contents most determinedly, i was puzzled. i asked him what he was doing.
wawa dee, said he.
i speak Oscar-ese pretty fluently, but this took me a second. i cocked my head and peered at him, and he repeated himself, a hint of exasperation in his voice. like, duh, mama…wawa dee. poor beleaguered Oscar, his parents dumb as muffins. he gave up on me and toddled off across the lawn, heaving the bucket fully half his size along with him.
and he watered the tree, the dying tree, of his own volition. his brother’s tree.
and his father and i sat with our feet in the kiddie pool in the hot sun, tears in our eyes…but of pride, not sorrow.

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in non-tree-related news, the lovely and literate Mad nominated century for a Perfect Post this month. Mad, thank you. a post nominally about children’s literature, nominated by a children’s librarian who doesn’t even really like Anne of Green Gables? dude, you made me feel like a writer. :)




July 2nd, 2008 at 8:43 pm
Tears well thinking about those little chubby toddler feet marching with determination to the little tree.
July 2nd, 2008 at 9:00 pm
And, of course, I now have tears too.
July 2nd, 2008 at 9:21 pm
Dude, you ARE a writer.
July 2nd, 2008 at 9:43 pm
Your little guy is so sweet. I love toddlers.
July 2nd, 2008 at 10:06 pm
me deawy too!
July 2nd, 2008 at 10:16 pm
Oh God, this just was gorgeous. You are an AMAZING writer.
July 2nd, 2008 at 10:21 pm
They have a way of turning it all around on us, making our sorrow a joy. our little ones do that very well. as he wawa’s the dee.
July 2nd, 2008 at 10:58 pm
Dude, you are a writer.
July 2nd, 2008 at 11:02 pm
And look at that face – so proud of himself!
July 2nd, 2008 at 11:55 pm
I have tears in my eyes now too.
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:43 am
Oscar, you are a good boy and full-hearted, lovely boy.
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:49 am
Another reader with tears.
July 3rd, 2008 at 3:56 am
Your beautiful family!
July 3rd, 2008 at 9:01 am
What a touching post, Bon. I’m ashamed to admit it’s been awhile since I’ve made the journey to visit the various blogs on my list- but I always enjoy yours when I read it. You have a fantastic way with words.
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:16 am
oh, that is charming.
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:30 am
Well, you know I have tears in my eyes, too, along with the rest. I’m an emotional wreck this week!
Hugs to you–happy watering days…
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:38 pm
Tears in my eyes too, Bon.
And thinking of you everyday.
July 3rd, 2008 at 1:19 pm
What a gorgeous moment.
July 3rd, 2008 at 4:05 pm
choking back sobs. I felt the pride, too. And the wonderment. And of course, the overwhelming sad.
Of to read one of the many perfects . . .
July 3rd, 2008 at 4:28 pm
Such beautiful sweetness.
xoxo CGF
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:10 pm
Maybe Oscar’s magical touch is just what the tree needs…
Bon this post for some reason reminded me of the children’s book that I was so captivated by when I was little “The Giving Tree” by Shel Silverstein. Do you know it? I had actually forgotten all about it and this post so evocatively brought it all back.
Little Oscar seems so profoundly in touch with what is going on around him…in that implicit kind of way that kids have of doing things….and if you weren’t as busy as you would have liked to have been with the tree in these last years, it was because you were busy teaching Oscar all this sensitivity he has, amongst other things. See? You have been a VERY busy lady, contrary to what you may want to believe with your couch resting! The image of you and Dave beaming with tears of pride at little O is such a beautiful one. Many more of these moments is what I wish for you and your growing family.
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:27 pm
Beautiful.
July 4th, 2008 at 3:21 am
it was such a worthy post bon. I love those nominations – nice validation (and what validation) that what touched me in a scrap of internet reached further.
July 4th, 2008 at 11:51 am
Now I’ve got tears in my eyes, too.
August 2nd, 2008 at 3:33 pm
“poor beleaguered Oscar, his parents dumb as muffins.”
My kids would agree that they have parents as “dumb as muffins.” Yes, I’m happy for your award and sad for your tree and have tears in my eyes, but mostly the phrase “dumb as muffins” is now a part of my vocabulary and each time I use it I’ll think of you. Enjoy your piece of space in my brain.