Wed 5 Nov 2008
the morning after
Posted by bon under issue stuff
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…and we Canadians can finally get our lives – and our news channels – back.
whew.
this morning feels historic, even way up here north of the border. i fell asleep before the race was called last night, but i watched Obama’s acceptance speech on youtube this morning, and damned if there wasn’t a whole lot of sand in my eyes. i wept like a baby before i even got my morning coffee.
because Obama does represent hope and change, even to this white Canadian chick/woman. it’s not just the audacious, breathtaking fact that a man of colour is President-Elect of the most powerful nation in the world. it’s not just that he speaks eloquently and intelligently, and that he conducts himself with decency and calls for dialogue and cooperation between the partisan factions that have increasingly divided the continent over the past decade. those things are big, and they set an immediately and significantly different tone from what i’ve seen from south of the border before.
but for me, the tears came when he thanked his family. his patchwork family, with his grandmother at the centre.
Obama didn’t just overcome racial prejudice to rise to the pinnacle of visible power. he overcame his own – and my – generation’s antipathy towards “the broken home” and its products, us children of divorce in a time when divorce still carried stigma. he doesn’t have an American apple pie family, tidy and iconic. he has had to learn to love and forgive and accept people’s limitations in coming to terms with the word “family.” he has had to make his way without his father’s name and connections paving his path. he has had to work to exceed people’s expectations of what he appears to be, on paper. a small part of me sang in pride and vindication watching Obama this morning, because his family structure looks more like mine than i’m accustomed to seeing in the halls of power, on either side of the border.
i’ve heard him called elitist, during this campaign. and i howled with laughter, because to me he looks like the very model of a modern meritocracy in action…finally. he is not a scion, not the son of a dynasty. he’s achieved what he’s achieved based on intelligence and hard work and ambition and the love of an unconventional family, particularly a grandmother who taught him to believe in himself. he’s the American dream.
and this morning, just as millions of African-Americans looked at him and felt their horizons of possibility expand, just as people across the world looked at him and felt hope for leadership and healing, i looked at Barack Obama and felt all the whispers and pitying looks that dogged my childhood and my perceptions of myself go poof, invalidated finally and completely by a man who stands tall and proud and humble all at once and says “we can.”
sniff.
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how are YOU this morning? what are your hopes for Obama and his presidency? do you believe this is the beginning of a sea change…how?




November 5th, 2008 at 12:34 pm
I am so happy to finally live in a blue Ohio! I am so proud to be an American. But most of all, I am HOPEFUL. This is absolutely the beginning of a sea change. It truly feels like we have turned the corner on a long, and to me dark, hallway of our nation’s past into the bright sun-lit corridor of hope that this country used to represent and to which I think it has returned.
There will be problems aplenty with disagreements abounding, I’m sure. Vibrant civil disagreement is critical to our democratic republic and let’s face it, change is a hard pill that many in the establishment will not swallow willingly. But I feel a long-lost political will swelling up from the general populace and THAT is an incredible force to be reckoned with!
Hard times and prosperity will not return quickly, but as long as we Americans together grasp the power of possibility and steely determination that has been a hallmark of our history for 232 years, we will continue toward positive change.
Now, a black man. Maybe a woman in my lifetime. Anything is possible.
November 5th, 2008 at 12:38 pm
I’m a pragmatic person. I tend not to get swept away, even by someone as good at “sweeping” as President Elect Obama (skipping for joy!!!!) But I wept, too, last night, for the same reasons you list. This is no Clinton, or Bush, or Kennedy. This is the blossoming of a dream of a normal, non-rich kid who is black, whose middle name is Hussein, whose dad was absent, whose mom and grandma raised him – these are all things that the campaign managers would have you believe are liabilities too big to overcome, things that are trivial when thinking of solving our root problems, and yet huge in the t.v. and internet age when you’re trying to get elected. And he sailed above it all. Meritocracy, indeed – those whispers and witch hunts are no longer fruitful tools in campaigning, and I hope if nothing else this ushers in an era of agreeable disagreement, and ends the demonization of the opponent.
I also think America has representation on the global stage that is way more eloquent, intelligent, and apt a depiction of our gifts and potential in the world than we have had in a long time. In the persona of Barack Obama is housed the American Dream, the melting pot, manifest destiny, and all of those other catchphrases that define us as a nation. I am proud to have him march into the global scene and represent me, my family.
So, pragmatic these days? Not so much.
November 5th, 2008 at 12:40 pm
I couldn’t agree with you more on everything that you said. I think, though, he has expanded more than African-American horizons. If a man and his family, who a little over a century ago, would have been owned in that country can rise to the highest position in the land then anyone can achieve their dreams.
My hope for his presidency is that his motivation is people, not money. Considering the last presidency’s track record, it’s long overdue.
GObama!
November 5th, 2008 at 12:55 pm
I love your perspective on the election; it puts into words what I keep failing to explain to my husband (who voted for Obama, but is concerned about his lack of experience). “Yes we can” takes on new, deeper-than-deep meanings when you stop to think about where this man–our new president–came from. It makes me deliriously happy, flying on hope. I think America is desperate for change, and Obama has earned the privilege of leading us into it.
November 5th, 2008 at 1:05 pm
This white Canadian chick too. : ) I am tired — stayed up until almost 1 a.m. watching the coverage — & I get up at 5 a.m. to get to work. But it was worth it! ; )
I think it will be impossible for him to live up to all the expectations heaped upon him… especially with the mess he’s inheriting (thank you, George Bush…!). But the symbolism of this moment is enormous. And I think he has the potential to become a great president.
Now, where’s our equivalent prime minister?? :p
November 5th, 2008 at 1:11 pm
It’s funny-lots of people I know get all “why do YOU care”-like a live in a bubble, along with my kids.
I care because my children and their friends can look up,even from Canada, and realize anything is possible. I care because the ploy didn’t work-women didn’t vote for vaginas just cause. I care because finally a glass ceiling finally was broken, and someone worthy, someone who has been in the trenches, truly, not the white collar, only sorta rich trenches, is coming to lead a once beautiful country back to itself.
Do I think it will be easy? Nope. Do I think he’ll always succeed? Nope. But the fact that he will provide the inspiration to generations, that he has told his elders it’s ok now, that all the spitting and the hate and the segregation they endured and rose up against was worth it-that matters, more than we can even possibly calculate.
As Rosa Parks helped pave the way for yesterday, I can only dream of what Obama sets the stage for.
I will now take my teary rant to my OWN blog. :)
November 5th, 2008 at 1:13 pm
This post says everything I wanted to say but couldn’t find the words for. I had the most loving upbringing you can imagine, even with a mostly absent father, and I too felt the stigma of my “broken home”. American by birth, currently living in the UK, I was covered in goose flesh at 5AM our time, watching his beautiful, gracious, and respectful speech. What a win for our world!
November 5th, 2008 at 1:19 pm
I went out volunteering yesterday morning, knocking on doors to remind folks to get to the polls (as if they needed reminding!) and have never felt so connected and inspired. The excitement was palpable; the groundswell of participation was awesome.
Obama said this victory is for us — US! — and that’s what gives me so much hope for his presidency. We are ready to shed the cynicism and shame of the last 8 years and be active players in our democracy and our future. Obama will be our president, not our savior… as much as ever, it is up to us to stay involved. For the first time in a long time, I feel dedicated to such a thing.
Hurrah!
November 5th, 2008 at 1:24 pm
I just listened to the speech and am teary-eyed. He really is all that and a bag of chips too, isn’t he?
November 5th, 2008 at 1:26 pm
You said it so well. I was trying to articulate this morning what I felt and why I, too, wept. And when I found this, I had that ‘yes’ moment. Well done!
November 5th, 2008 at 2:21 pm
Well, I hadn’t cried yet. Until I read this. Well done.
November 5th, 2008 at 3:06 pm
I don’t trust politicians as far as I can throw them. Any of them.
I hope he proves me wrong.
November 5th, 2008 at 3:31 pm
Good morning ;). I didn’t vote for him, but I am happy he won. Does that make sense? I am taking this opportunity to reconsider my politics over the next four years. He is a charismatic man – in no way have I ever deemed him an elitist – and he is humble, or so it sounds. I think the ‘change’ and ‘hope’ that this country does need can come from Obama, if he surrounds himself with the right people. I so hope his cabinet choices are good ones, and I do so hope he strongly considers our position in the way of national security. If he manages to keep us safe and to instill that sense of hope and positive energy he claims he can do, I’ll be very happy. It will be an interesting four years. But it sounds like, today, in the schools and at the grocery store, that people, overwhelmingly, are relieved. And that is good.
November 5th, 2008 at 3:35 pm
I tend to side with Flutter on politics. But this one gives me hope. It is a HUGE paradigm shift for the world. That in and of itself is good.
November 5th, 2008 at 3:46 pm
Yes, to everything you have said. Your first line made me laugh, btw. Thanks for that, I’ve been crying on and off since last night.
I know that he will not accomplish everything he sets out to do. But I know that despite those failures, he deeply cares about people. I’m tired of feeling like a pebble in the shoe of my current government. I just want someone to effing care about other people.
November 5th, 2008 at 4:02 pm
I’m quite exhausted from staying up late running in the streets yelling, screaming, and cheering ourselves hoarse from happiness over Obama’s win. But I wouldn’t have it any other way.
This liberal, former Texan has been smiling ear-to-ear all day today.
November 5th, 2008 at 4:06 pm
Flutter, my respected friend, i don’t think it’s about trust. to me, the drama of Obama is what he signifies to the US and to the world at large – that is the starting place. the head of state is, in himself (or herself) a model representing what a nation values and respects. in Obama’s case, as a person of colour, with a non-traditional and international family, who uses speech carefully and humbly and calls for non-partisan cooperation, he sends a message that these are things and qualities and ways of being that are VALUED. he, in his actions and his very being, sets the tone for what is okay, what is acceptable, what is looked up to. and the things he represents are things that i value more than any specific tax policy or law…hence my reason for hope and excitement. it’s not actually in what he can do – though i hope he is able to do enough to keep his integrity, and i hope, like Jo said, that he surrounds himself with good people – and therefore not so much about trusting him, personally. from my perspective, he’s accomplished something significant and powerful and positive just in being elected.
now, obviously, he has the hard work to do. and i wish him well, and hope the nation is able to work with him and have all this enthusiasm coalesce into the positivity it has the potential for.
November 5th, 2008 at 5:07 pm
oh, i am feeling swell, that is until i reflect on the same people who believe that a man of colour/change/hope can lead the country but apparently we cannot give rights and equality to gay people who want to express their dedication to each other. what is up with these f**cking californians that claim to be so f**cking enlightened? soory for the bleeps but i was really disappointed after feeling so much change to wake up and see the majority in the state i live in think that their decision to ban marriage for all was the right one. f’ em.
November 5th, 2008 at 7:15 pm
Well said, Bon, well said!!
You wouldn’t think it, but the mood in my house, just me and my 2 girls, was ELECTRIFYING. They were jumping and screaming, pumping fists… they listened to his speech, and repeated Yes We Can!
Such a stark contrast, the party at Grant Park, where all were free to come, versus the other one at a fancy hotel, by invitation only.
One speech was full of I-statements, the other about the Americans.
Vast difference.
Obama has an uphill road ahead. A ton of work to do, but I hold hope he is going to do it, and do it well too. I am still pinching myself, what a time I am in!
November 5th, 2008 at 8:28 pm
thank you for putting up with us all this time. we promise we are going to start getting it right from now on.
i can’t stop crying. thank you for what you wrote.
November 5th, 2008 at 10:38 pm
I am thrilled, and relieved, and so very hopeful. My 67-year-old mother said “Doesn’t it make you feel like running out and dancing in the streets?” My husband’s 88-year-old aunt put up a yard sign. My 3-year-old exulted, “Obama WINNED!” I think we all did.
November 5th, 2008 at 11:47 pm
I have placed a lot of my hopes in Obama, and I am thrilled that he won the presidency. If anyone can heal our nation, he can.
November 6th, 2008 at 12:11 am
It was a fantastic speech–when’s the last time you heard a president elect reach our like that, from puppies in the white house to gay people. I don’t think I’ve ever heard gay people hailed as citizen/subjects in a presidential address. I’m in awe.
November 6th, 2008 at 1:12 am
I agree with the great personal story, the fantastic speech, the appearance of a man who has his act together. And, while I don’t agree with with much of his proposed policy, I still respect the hell out of the guy and his forged-self-made path.
Oh and his family is gonna be fun to watch too. Those daughters are adorable.
November 6th, 2008 at 4:30 am
Beautifully said, Bon. I’m so grateful to have an intelligent, hardworking progressive as President-elect. It’s not going to be an easy road for him or the country, but at least it’s going in the right direction!
November 6th, 2008 at 9:46 am
Bon, all I have to say to that eloquent post is: Amen.
November 6th, 2008 at 5:39 pm
i’ll join your readers in my elation over finally being part of the group who elected the winner…damn, does it feel good- not just for me, but to know that our nation, a community of individuals came together and overwhelmingly chose a leader for the good of all our people, that, to me, is breathtaking.
i live in nyc and i have to tell you the mood here is unbelievable- the joy, the sense of community- i’ve never seen a turnout like that at the polls- so many new voters, so many people sensing the importance and the history of their vote. i heard today on the news around 7 million new yorkers (city) voted on tuesday- that is stunning considering the large percentage of our population who are ineligible to vote based on their immigration status (both legal and not)- it’s just incredible.
last story- when i picked up the pnut from preschool wednesday i was chatting with her little friend darius, who was looking tired and barely holding on at 4pm for a three year old. i joked with him- “late night? up watching the election?” and he said to me “yep- now i can be anything i want to be when i grow up”- before i started bawling for the 700th time since the night before i said to him “yes you can!” and then the waterworks all over again. like right now.
hope indeed. what an amazing feeling to not be plagues with doubt and despair- yes we can!
November 8th, 2008 at 1:25 am
I feel very, very hopeful. Standing in that hospital room, watching history unfold is something I’ll never forget.
November 9th, 2008 at 5:21 pm
Bon, thanks for putting into words what this American has been having trouble with. I am overjoyed, but am finding hard to put my fingers to the keys and write something about it. And you’re right. He is the anti-elitist. It’s a term that I’m glad never stuck, that people could thankfully see through and ultimately reject.
November 10th, 2008 at 12:23 am
My hope is that he will prove to be as wise as he is smart and that he will be given the chance to succeed in mending the broken parts of our country by a system designed to stymie.