Comments on: the cruellest month

By: Bo

Bo — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 23:13:05 +0000

Finally, someone else who has heard of the play “Passacaglia” – I was in this play in high school. Can you recall for me the name of the nurse, the younger woman? That was my role, and I just can’t remember her name!

By: Anta

Anta — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:35:29 +0000

Bon, I’m sorry part of April has to suck for you.
Finn was here though, and he mattered, and he changed you and made you a mamma, and we’ll always willingly be here, eyes hungry to read and hearts open, to acknowledge his life-changing, precious presence and your need to mark it in whatever way you feel you want to.
Love to you.

By: Betty M

Betty M — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 20:39:43 +0000

April marks the birthday of one of my closest high school friends killed in a bike crash at 19. I didn’t know how to deal with her funeral. I felt I should be weeping profusely but I couldn’t – it came a lot later.

Saffron will work wonders – you only need a tiny bit dissolved in boiling water to create a really yellow yellow.

By: slouching mom

slouching mom — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 16:28:01 +0000

i’m sorry, bon. today and every day. this month and every month.

By: Kyla

Kyla — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 19:04:33 +0000

You have such a gift. I use my blog for similar reasons, not quite as frequently anymore, but it was born from that need to truly be honest somewhere, because I couldn’t bear to do it in person.

By: Emily R

Emily R — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 17:43:42 +0000

I got nothing, but I want to let you know I am here reading. I, too, smile as a defense mechanism.

By: JoC

JoC — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 17:17:13 +0000

Yes, wow and thank you. ((Hugs))

By: Janet

Janet — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 14:42:55 +0000

I have always found it easier to express myself through the written word. When forced to express grief or commiseration face-to-face, I stumble, the right words hiding in that tear in my pocket, along with the fuzzy Lifesavers and spare change. So, yes, the blog is a welcome outlet.

Thinking of you and yours and wishing that May ushers in sunny and warm like a lemon yellow cake.

PS You can add lemon pudding mix to the cake batter for yellow. Or I have a recipe for a “golden” cake that uses a lot of egg yolks. That would probably achieve the colour you want, too. Email me if you are interested in the recipe, ‘kay?

By: frances

frances — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 10:50:16 +0000

I am thinking about you and the loss of your son. I lost a son 27 years ago and the special days (when we found out there was a problem, when he was born, when he died) I still mark in my heart. Like you, I had other happy days along side since he had a twin who lives (and 2 other siblings) and that does not remove the loss. All I can say is that those of us who have experienced such loss and the joy of living children have a richness of experience that bonds us to mothers throughout the ages. It’s not a bond we would have chosen but it’s a privilege nevertheless. I admire that you have extended this bond across time and space through your blog. Enjoy the birthday celebration.

By: janis

janis — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 07:01:20 +0000

Why does reading this makes me want to bawl real bad?

Holding you and Finn in my heart, Bon. ((hugs))

I don’t think food coloring is needed to make a yellow cake? And i consider myself a baker. DUH.