Comments on: little miracles http://cribchronicles.com/2009/04/28/little-miracles/ i will NOT scribble on the children Thu, 29 Jul 2010 17:22:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Kelly http://cribchronicles.com/2009/04/28/little-miracles/comment-page-2/#comment-293825 Kelly Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:08:55 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=457#comment-293825 My husband and I lost our daughter 5 years ago next week! I found myself just looking around at bereavement articles and came across your letter! I say good for you! I live in the Halifax area and during the big IWK fund raising time I hide out even still. Everywhere you go people are talking of what great things happen there! And every year we are forgotten the families that things did not turn out so well for! Since we lost Jocelyn we have had two more children both wonderful blessings. We as well are grateful for the IWK even though our story did not end the way anyone wants. I hope the IWK can see how this hurts and try to make some changes! Good for you great letter! My husband and I lost our daughter 5 years ago next week! I found myself just looking around at bereavement articles and came across your letter! I say good for you! I live in the Halifax area and during the big IWK fund raising time I hide out even still. Everywhere you go people are talking of what great things happen there! And every year we are forgotten the families that things did not turn out so well for! Since we lost Jocelyn we have had two more children both wonderful blessings. We as well are grateful for the IWK even though our story did not end the way anyone wants. I hope the IWK can see how this hurts and try to make some changes!
Good for you great letter!

]]> By: Jenn http://cribchronicles.com/2009/04/28/little-miracles/comment-page-2/#comment-239915 Jenn Sun, 31 May 2009 23:01:32 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=457#comment-239915 I also think it is perfect. Very well written and with excellent points and analogies. I feel like saying "every year", (because it feels like I've received so many of these letters from the IWK, when really it hasn't even been a year)that we receive a "miracle" story, I feel sick to my stomach, and I never really knew why until now. I never really thought about it, because I am grateful to the IWK for the care they provided both my girls and especially my living twin. However, reading the miracle stories, makes me feel like my dead baby was a failure, and that she wasn't strong or good enough to be a miracle. That really pisses me off, so thank you for opening my eyes and making me realize why I hated those letters so much. I also think it is perfect. Very well written and with excellent points and analogies. I feel like saying “every year”, (because it feels like I’ve received so many of these letters from the IWK, when really it hasn’t even been a year)that we receive a “miracle” story, I feel sick to my stomach, and I never really knew why until now. I never really thought about it, because I am grateful to the IWK for the care they provided both my girls and especially my living twin. However, reading the miracle stories, makes me feel like my dead baby was a failure, and that she wasn’t strong or good enough to be a miracle. That really pisses me off, so thank you for opening my eyes and making me realize why I hated those letters so much.

]]> By: Emily http://cribchronicles.com/2009/04/28/little-miracles/comment-page-2/#comment-239604 Emily Sat, 30 May 2009 13:30:47 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=457#comment-239604 This is a great letter, and one that I want copy, replace "hospital" with "Church" and send to my place of worship. This is a great letter, and one that I want copy, replace “hospital” with “Church” and send to my place of worship.

]]> By: Janice http://cribchronicles.com/2009/04/28/little-miracles/comment-page-2/#comment-235280 Janice Fri, 08 May 2009 23:15:40 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=457#comment-235280 I also found this very upsetting. Our family spent many months at the IWK over several years and lost a son. Thanks for speaking out on this matter. I also found this very upsetting. Our family spent many months at the IWK over several years and lost a son. Thanks for speaking out on this matter.

]]> By: thordora http://cribchronicles.com/2009/04/28/little-miracles/comment-page-2/#comment-234834 thordora Thu, 07 May 2009 03:41:17 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=457#comment-234834 Just seeing this since I'm mostly detatched from online lately. Good on you girl. I still remember the crap like this we got after Mom died... Just seeing this since I’m mostly detatched from online lately. Good on you girl. I still remember the crap like this we got after Mom died…

]]> By: Sophie http://cribchronicles.com/2009/04/28/little-miracles/comment-page-2/#comment-234712 Sophie Wed, 06 May 2009 19:53:16 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=457#comment-234712 I completely agree with you. Perfect letter, Bon. I completely agree with you. Perfect letter, Bon.

]]> By: Nils Ling http://cribchronicles.com/2009/04/28/little-miracles/comment-page-2/#comment-234695 Nils Ling Wed, 06 May 2009 16:47:51 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=457#comment-234695 A lovely, thoughtful letter, Bonnie. As one who has lost an infant many years ago, I always endured those campaigns - more or less incorporated it into the overall pain burden. I never took the opportunity to do what you've done, actually force the Institution to rethink some of their basic fundraising suppositions. Good on you! A lovely, thoughtful letter, Bonnie. As one who has lost an infant many years ago, I always endured those campaigns – more or less incorporated it into the overall pain burden. I never took the opportunity to do what you’ve done, actually force the Institution to rethink some of their basic fundraising suppositions. Good on you!

]]> By: Gal http://cribchronicles.com/2009/04/28/little-miracles/comment-page-2/#comment-234596 Gal Wed, 06 May 2009 04:45:56 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=457#comment-234596 WOW! Bon, this letter is stunning. You said it perfectly. Thank you. WOW! Bon, this letter is stunning. You said it perfectly. Thank you.

]]> By: RenĂ© http://cribchronicles.com/2009/04/28/little-miracles/comment-page-2/#comment-234575 RenĂ© Wed, 06 May 2009 02:39:06 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=457#comment-234575 I tried to post at the CBC site but for some reason I can't log in. I'm astounded by the rancour & stupidity of some of those comments. I regularly follow autism stories in the media so I guess I should be hardened to this kind of trollery by now. But I'm just not. What does it cost these people to exercise a small bit of compassion? How damaged are they? Thank you for doing what you did, Bon. Every time someone like you reminds us that we need to look out for each other, they are serving all of us. I tried to post at the CBC site but for some reason I can’t log in. I’m astounded by the rancour & stupidity of some of those comments. I regularly follow autism stories in the media so I guess I should be hardened to this kind of trollery by now. But I’m just not.

What does it cost these people to exercise a small bit of compassion? How damaged are they?

Thank you for doing what you did, Bon. Every time someone like you reminds us that we need to look out for each other, they are serving all of us.

]]> By: WhyMommy http://cribchronicles.com/2009/04/28/little-miracles/comment-page-2/#comment-234552 WhyMommy Wed, 06 May 2009 00:44:29 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=457#comment-234552 Very reasonable, and very reasoned. good for you for speaking up. Very reasonable, and very reasoned. good for you for speaking up.

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