Comments on: but tell it slant http://cribchronicles.com/2009/05/07/but-tell-it-slant/ i will NOT scribble on the children Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:08:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: anymommy http://cribchronicles.com/2009/05/07/but-tell-it-slant/comment-page-1/#comment-236132 anymommy Wed, 13 May 2009 02:34:44 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=472#comment-236132 Happy Anniversary! I think we are actually only one day apart - because Matt freaks out and doesn't like me to post important dates on the actual date. Your story of the beach and Finn and the anniversary of his death was lovely in a wistful, ironic way. I think maybe you'll 'remember' his ashes when you're ready. I used to HATE being quoted or speaking to the media - in situations far, far less sensitive and painful than this. Everything is changed, warped, cut, sold. Awesome that you were able to mount a compelling response! Happy Anniversary! I think we are actually only one day apart – because Matt freaks out and doesn’t like me to post important dates on the actual date.

Your story of the beach and Finn and the anniversary of his death was lovely in a wistful, ironic way. I think maybe you’ll ‘remember’ his ashes when you’re ready.

I used to HATE being quoted or speaking to the media – in situations far, far less sensitive and painful than this. Everything is changed, warped, cut, sold. Awesome that you were able to mount a compelling response!

]]> By: WhyMommy http://cribchronicles.com/2009/05/07/but-tell-it-slant/comment-page-1/#comment-235371 WhyMommy Sat, 09 May 2009 14:31:13 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=472#comment-235371 Not too thick, my dear ... part of your luminous beauty (yes, even without the platinum locks) is the way your heart peeks out from your skin, reminding us all to think before we speak, and to put ourselves in another's place before being unintentionally callous. It was a good lesson for the hospital to learn. I'm sorry, SO sorry, that you were hurt. You're right, friends rallied, and support you, and all of the good stuff, but I'm still sorry that you were hurt. And Finn... oh, Finn ... I'm glad that you felt okay about it. Because it is okay. It's totally okay that you got swept away in the joy, but remembered to remember him still. Not too thick, my dear … part of your luminous beauty (yes, even without the platinum locks) is the way your heart peeks out from your skin, reminding us all to think before we speak, and to put ourselves in another’s place before being unintentionally callous.

It was a good lesson for the hospital to learn. I’m sorry, SO sorry, that you were hurt. You’re right, friends rallied, and support you, and all of the good stuff, but I’m still sorry that you were hurt.

And Finn… oh, Finn … I’m glad that you felt okay about it. Because it is okay. It’s totally okay that you got swept away in the joy, but remembered to remember him still.

]]> By: Kyla http://cribchronicles.com/2009/05/07/but-tell-it-slant/comment-page-1/#comment-235297 Kyla Sat, 09 May 2009 01:43:48 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=472#comment-235297 There was so much to this post, Bon...my comment will not to it justice. Something similar has happened to me in my forays into the media...our story is always attacked in the comment sections of news articles, from "Get your greedy hands out of our pockets!" to "Well, they should have planned for this before having that child!" Yes, we should have PLANNED for her to have neurological damage and PLANNED for her insurance carrier to shut down...of course, everyone else plans for those things, right? Nope. Anyway, the other thing that happened was I agreed to a television interview and although it didn't go badly, it misrepresented our story enough through editing and timing that it made me want to crawl out of my skin. It was terrible. I imagine this whole debacle did the same for you and I'm sorry for that. There was so much to this post, Bon…my comment will not to it justice.

Something similar has happened to me in my forays into the media…our story is always attacked in the comment sections of news articles, from “Get your greedy hands out of our pockets!” to “Well, they should have planned for this before having that child!” Yes, we should have PLANNED for her to have neurological damage and PLANNED for her insurance carrier to shut down…of course, everyone else plans for those things, right? Nope.

Anyway, the other thing that happened was I agreed to a television interview and although it didn’t go badly, it misrepresented our story enough through editing and timing that it made me want to crawl out of my skin. It was terrible. I imagine this whole debacle did the same for you and I’m sorry for that.

]]> By: Janet http://cribchronicles.com/2009/05/07/but-tell-it-slant/comment-page-1/#comment-235255 Janet Fri, 08 May 2009 22:31:42 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=472#comment-235255 I wonder if my kids will try the lobster when we come out this summer? The way the CBC story unfolded was disappointing to say the least. I'm glad the folks at IWK do understand that language matters. I hope you had a great anniversary, despite it all. I wonder if my kids will try the lobster when we come out this summer?

The way the CBC story unfolded was disappointing to say the least. I’m glad the folks at IWK do understand that language matters.

I hope you had a great anniversary, despite it all.

]]> By: lisa b http://cribchronicles.com/2009/05/07/but-tell-it-slant/comment-page-1/#comment-235200 lisa b Fri, 08 May 2009 19:46:50 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=472#comment-235200 the idea of catching our own lobster is so romantic to this city dweller whose lobster arrives on a plane. I think a trip out east is in order. I am so very glad you are working with the foundation. the idea of catching our own lobster is so romantic to this city dweller whose lobster arrives on a plane. I think a trip out east is in order.

I am so very glad you are working with the foundation.

]]> By: Mama G http://cribchronicles.com/2009/05/07/but-tell-it-slant/comment-page-1/#comment-235194 Mama G Fri, 08 May 2009 19:26:38 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=472#comment-235194 Oh, don't get me started on the friggin media. They'll do anything to "get the story". Through my day job, I've had more than a few experiences with them such that I now question/doubt every news story I see or read. And your message was so very powerful. If only they had kept true to that, could you imagine the level of positive impact it could have made? Shame on CBC (shaking head) ... Oh, don’t get me started on the friggin media. They’ll do anything to “get the story”. Through my day job, I’ve had more than a few experiences with them such that I now question/doubt every news story I see or read.

And your message was so very powerful. If only they had kept true to that, could you imagine the level of positive impact it could have made?

Shame on CBC (shaking head) …

]]> By: Painted Maypole http://cribchronicles.com/2009/05/07/but-tell-it-slant/comment-page-1/#comment-235112 Painted Maypole Fri, 08 May 2009 04:51:48 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=472#comment-235112 happy anniversary. wow. "complains"? I love, though, that the hospital is sitting down with you and working it though. wouldn't it be nice if they covered THAT story? happy anniversary.

wow. “complains”? I love, though, that the hospital is sitting down with you and working it though. wouldn’t it be nice if they covered THAT story?

]]> By: George http://cribchronicles.com/2009/05/07/but-tell-it-slant/comment-page-1/#comment-235111 George Fri, 08 May 2009 04:29:51 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=472#comment-235111 You really are a pretty fascinating woman Bon. Hats off to you for the radio show and your subsequent calm response to the madness that ensued. Did you take a photo of Finn's name in the sand? It would make a lovely addition to the photo of his urn I think. Well done O, it is a brave man who can eat a friend. You really are a pretty fascinating woman Bon. Hats off to you for the radio show and your subsequent calm response to the madness that ensued. Did you take a photo of Finn’s name in the sand? It would make a lovely addition to the photo of his urn I think.
Well done O, it is a brave man who can eat a friend.

]]> By: Hannah http://cribchronicles.com/2009/05/07/but-tell-it-slant/comment-page-1/#comment-235092 Hannah Fri, 08 May 2009 02:31:54 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=472#comment-235092 I'm glad I'm not the only person who can't pronounce "los-bter". You must record him saying it. It'll be hilarious and sweet some day. I liked this post. It felt very slice of life-ish. And that's neat. I’m glad I’m not the only person who can’t pronounce “los-bter”. You must record him saying it. It’ll be hilarious and sweet some day.

I liked this post. It felt very slice of life-ish. And that’s neat.

]]> By: sally http://cribchronicles.com/2009/05/07/but-tell-it-slant/comment-page-1/#comment-235042 sally Thu, 07 May 2009 23:32:38 +0000 http://cribchronicles.com/?p=472#comment-235042 Next year for the ashes. You're right, Finn wont mind. Next year for the ashes. You’re right, Finn wont mind.

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