Comments on: shut the f*ck up Bonnie

By: kyooty

kyooty — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 14:37:49 +0000

Getting angry and having our kids see us get angry and then calm down again, or using different techniques to get calm are a teaching tool. They learn that everyone has an off day. They learn they are allowed to have feelings feel them and then move on. They also learn that we can apologize to others when we lose it, and they see that too. I’ve got 3 boys, Angry happens. Happiness happens more. :)

By: Holly

Holly — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 14:44:23 +0000

So it’s a few weeks later but I just wanted to say that I’m STILL laughing about this post.

Sometimes I have more time outs than the kids. The number one rule of Mommy Time out is that NO ONE CAN TALK TO MOMMY.

By: Becky

Becky — Thu, 28 May 2009 22:02:14 +0000

Oh my gosh. I LOVED this post. Thank you. And heck yes I get angry. Hope you’re feeling better, since I am reading this very late.

By: mb

mb — Sun, 24 May 2009 20:41:09 +0000

Sicilian here through and through and i told my husband that my blood boils unpredictably so many, many years ago. he’s one of those dirty looks and stinging energy types. he still doesn’t get the mad explosions, hot like lava, that i am. though i do think at times it tursn him on.

but i’d rather be explosive than passive aggressive. i’d rather break a dish, scream a million fucks, slam doors then hold it in tight and resent…resent…resent. and pop an artery or something.

now i don’t think looking at my five year old and yelling ‘why the fuck do you keep hitting your sister in the head’ is appropriate but i’ve done it. and the answer to why she keeps hitting her sister in the head is probably because she’s seen my knock over a chair or two in her day.

this anger that lives in me, it’s my muse. she is why i write. my life long karma is to transform it into pure creative bliss.

until then, i am so stealing SHUT THE FUCK UP DONNIE.

By: cheesefairy

cheesefairy — Tue, 19 May 2009 03:59:15 +0000

Not only do I get mind-searingly angry since the second kid was born but I also use that same line from the Big L..under my breath of course but it does feel so good and touching the humourous movie is a good way to ground myself.

I grew up with parents who did not raise their voices or fight or show me actual anger, actual conflict. as a result I am conflict averse (married to a conflict averse man…House of the Cold Shoulder) and I think it is better for the kids to see anger / apology / calming down / moving on than to constantly wonder “is it something I did? does she hate me? maybe if I try THIS random thing I will get a reaction.”

They need to learn. And so do I.

By: HMC

HMC — Mon, 18 May 2009 00:36:37 +0000

I do okay with my son. But those damn dogs of mine… A day doesn’t go by without me threatening to take them back where they came from. (I won’t, but I say it anyway…) Maybe it’s displacement? :o)

By: jen

jen — Sun, 17 May 2009 14:50:55 +0000

it’s those mirrors that curse me the most, the ones that are held up that i’ve tried so hard to deny. i hate those. i hate them and then i start to befriend them.

i’ve missed you.

By: mamie

mamie — Sat, 16 May 2009 20:31:33 +0000

i get so angry sometimes, snappy and muttering obscenities under my breathe. i get so angry sometimes that i scream at no one particular in the car when driving, like yesterday on some foreign road with idiotic drivers surrounding me…but no kids in the car that time. if they are in the car i mutter. yeah, i do get angry, then i am not proud or i feel sad and shamed by my behavior. i have that nature, though i love to smile, i also really like to get angry. contradictory me. it is usually not with the kids, more the state of the world around me. and i hope that realizing that helps me feel less angry about it all as it never really seems to help me much. but the bonnie/donny thing. oh, that is priceless.

By: Ally

Ally — Sat, 16 May 2009 03:29:05 +0000

Yes, yes, and more yes. I get angry all right. And I’ve found myself in the bathroom screaming the same phrase (minus the “Donnie/Bonnie” bit) into my shirtsleeve.

By: George

George — Sat, 16 May 2009 02:25:04 +0000

Yes. Yes I do. So much so, that I sometimes get a jaw ache from gritting my teeth. Which is better than the alternative of screaming ‘Shut the f up and get the f out of my house’ 2 inches from a 2-3 year old face. To say that toddlers are ‘difficult’ is putting is so mildly it’s a joke. Absolutely hair-tearingly annoying is more accurate to those of us with a tendancy for anger.
(But wonderful nonetheless).

Well done for making it to the bathroom I say.