Comments on: days of wine & roses

By: Quadelle

Quadelle — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 15:12:41 +0000

Good gracious girl you need to stop making my heart ache.

But, really, I don’t want you to stop. Your words, images and insights resonate deep within and help me to see another side. It’s good. So very good.

By: Bill Ratliff

Bill Ratliff — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 17:21:55 +0000

I am a 59 year old father who now hopes for that same baby feeling but with grandchildren. I echo the sentiments of many, Bon. The jewels that glisten in this blog need to be compiled in a book. There will be a time, hopefully 20 years from now, when I will be rocking in my chair at a loss for images of the past and I will need/want the clarity of your words. Once again thank you. Peace and love to you and your family.

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 04:45:08 +0000

I stumbled upon your beautiful blog from Mommy Loves Vodka. I have a seven week old little baby- I have been having a tough time being home and it seems like all I do is breastfeed the little guy- some days I get so frustrated- this post made me cry-
I am going to try to hold onto these days as I only have another month before I have to go back to school- I find myself wanting to fast forward time, but I know I will never get these days back- thank you for reminding me to treasure each day as it goes so fast!

By: pnuts mama

pnuts mama — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 04:41:08 +0000

oh my god, yes. yes. and, yes.

By: anymommy

anymommy — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 21:10:27 +0000

I was finally able to read this today and I still sobbed. I’m not a good baby mommy either, even as I treasure it, even as every single day with my last tiny baby seems bittersweet, I’m impatient. I want my hands free, but I don’t. I want quiet, but I don’t. There’s no winning, only living it.

“and still as it slips through my fingers i grieve.” So do I. I mentioned it to my midwife yesterday at my three week check up. I told her I was insane and I had a three week old baby and I couldn’t enjoy it for mourning it as the last time. She teared up. She said she had never struggled so much as she did when they decided her 3-yr-old was their last. I asked if her job didn’t soften it a bit and she said no, not even a little.

I don’t know why, but it was so comforting. I guess because I left feeling like grief in such joy is a normal thing?

Book. Sorry. This was gorgeous and obviously struck a huge chord in me.

By: Tere

Tere — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 14:18:50 +0000

Beautiful. Simply beautiful.

By: Rae

Rae — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 16:16:27 +0000

Sigh. I am coming through these days with my littlest too, and they are sweet and lovely and zipping by me while I cry because I don’t have enough time or energy to write. Ahhhhh. Last days of my last baby… ahhhhhhhh.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 12:20:38 +0000

My God Bon, you know how to put things into words. It’s what we feel, we mothers, the pull and push. We want our little ones to stay so little and yet, we want them to grow and be able to do.

The end of babyhood is neigh for both of us, sad, huh?

By: Annje

Annje — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 02:48:30 +0000

I think I foundyou off anymommy a while back. I love this post, it reminds me of my own struggles as a mama. My baby is 17 months and at a stage that is exhausting. Mostly I can’t wait to get past the baby stages, especially with an older sister, so we can do more. But then I see a baby and realize some of those moments with mine are long gone. Watching them grow is certainly bittersweet.

By: wn

wn — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 23:15:33 +0000

this made me cry…not weep…cry

I had a struggle with my time at home too…I remember the hours being too long and yet the time was too fleeting. Being about a year removed, I now have such a different perspective. If I am lucky enough to have a 2nd, I wonder how if the experience will be any different.

Oh…and can you tell me when the danger-avoidance days should come to an end? Honestly, I will NOT miss wrangling power cords out of grubby little hands…or will I?